COMMUNICATION ... and RESPECT.

Modern technology has provided us with superb communication equipment like cellphones, TVs and computers. This allows us to communicate almost with anybody anywhere in the world - except with our husbands or wives when both of us are at home. Then all these wonderful communication paraphernalia becomes inadequate and is in fact a threat to our well-being. The more communication technology advances, the better and bigger variety of information exchanging tools made available to us, the bigger and more dangerous the threat to our talkative, free-spoken, unreserved, sociable, friendly, open, revealing and chatty expressions of feelings between husband and wife. There can be no mutual understanding without communication between people. As the wife has said to her husband - Talk to me, please talk to me, I don't want more sex, talk to me!!! To smother communication at home between husband and wife, means to stop the breath of expressing feelings, to prevent couples to one day obtain a perfect communion of thoughts, to share harmony, to spend a day in communion with nature. Lack of communication will lead to lack of respect and lack of respect will automatically lead to all the thousand-and-one other phenomena like gossip, arguments, quarrels, clashes, fights, disputes, controversies, war of words, abuse, physical abuse, divorce, murder ... Believe it or not but we need to be healed from communication as it is seen through the eyes of the business world, as it is observed as the rule, as it is celebrated and sanctified by them. The time has come to get to the core of the matter, to find the very essence of communication. When last did you bask in your wife's admiration? When last did you receive your husband's little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love? Forget communication, let's rather start talking, let's utter words, let's chat, gab, babble or rattle on. Better still, let us have a little talk together! When last did the two of you have a little talk together? If I can talk with you, I can walk with you - and walk with you and talk with you. We should not delay our little talk together or soon the day will come that - I long to talk with some old lover's ghost, who died before the god of love was born. John Donne 1571-1631. So, when I talk with you, I walk with you and I am with you. So walking and talking we may soon find that we talk till dawn and then ... For God's sake hold your tongue, and let me love! John Donne . So let's talk together, you and I ... The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things: Of shoes - and ships - and sealing wax - of cabbages - and kings - and why the sea is boiling hot - and whether pigs have wings! When we talk together, we could talk so much ... for if you were to make little fishes talk, they would talk like whales! Oliver Goldsmith 1728-1774. We'll soon find that talking is like little waves moving through our souls, cleansing our hearts of anger, pain, fear and guilt. Enjoy your little talk together, celebrate it, sanctify it!